Last night I found out my husband has an account with "Adult Friend Finder"…its a site people can go to and find people for sex. His profile stated he was looking for a discreet relationship, a three way, and a few other things I’d prefer not to go in to. He was out last night drinking with a couple friends so I waited until today to confront him about it. He’s playing dumb and told me he has no idea what I’m talking about. I answered back (at this point I was really pissed but still tried to remain calm) saying that our online history shows he was accessing his profile and he had an opened and saved an email from that website with his potential matches. Its not like someone just walked into our apartment, got on our computer and set this all up in his name just for fun…he had to have done it. Its like no matter what proof I have he’s still telling me he has "no idea" what I’m talking about. If he’d admit to having it then we could work on fixing whatever’s wrong with our marriage. I had to put a password on the computer so he can’t get on it, which made him say he felt like he’s ten years old again…pretty much like he’s acting. Where do we go from here?

My marriage is not good for the last 15mos. It’s my hubby fault who didn’t care or pay attention to me and my kids. He always on the computer and didn’t do his job as a hubby in bed. We only have sex no more than 3 times a mos. He was online all night long until 7am b/c play pokerparty, porno, and more. I always tell him how i felt about the marriage. He will ruined the happy marriage. Until I read his email and know that he have a thought to cheat on me this early yr with some women. I know that he met them, so I’m not really sure is he cheated on me or not.
So I told him that ok let have a open marriage, Oh my God now he email and joined the adult friend finder online. He have about 6 women want to meet him. My heart is broken to read all his mail.
So he will meet some lady this weekend and other days.
If I can’t keep his heart then I sure I can’t keep his D*ck.
But if he love me then he will never have sex with other lady.
what should I do?

My husband left his email open and I looked at his mail and noticed an email from an adult friend finder service. I wrote down his user name and password and later went on the site and looked at his profile. He had signed up for the account about 6 months ago and he profiled himself as a ’separtated’ male seeking a couple of women to have a threesome with. When we first met he had told me that he had had a threesome once with two bisexual women. I figured that it was in the past so I never made an issue of it. In his profile description he put ‘tired of being the teacher’ This really hurt my feelings. His profile said he hadn’t logged on since he signed up, but the fact is he still signed up. Our marriage has been rocky lately and he says he wants to work things out, and he really has been making and effort, but should I confront him about it?
So if i don’t metion it to him, how do i deal with him thinking he has to ‘teach’ me? i may not have had as much experience as he did when we met, but i always considered our sex life to be good. When i ask him if he is satisfied with our sex life he has always said he is. For him to make that comment really hurt.

My fiance & I met up with his best friend for dinner. At the end of the dinner I found out from his friend that he used to talk about me to him. Last year my fiance & I argued alot. I didn’t show any affection to him. I never kissed him or hold hands. Because of my culture & my religion. Then this spring I let him see me naked. I didn’t sleep with him but been fooling around alot. I wanted to wait for marriage but it happened. Now I am so much in love & he gave me a ring. He loves me alot too. Yesterday he said when we faught he told his co-worker, mom & uncle about me. I told my sis about him too but not anymore. This summer I found an email add in his room. It was visible. He didn’t realize it at first then he saw me seeing it & hid it. I went home & did a reverse email search.It belongs to a woman in england but he’s never been there.Yesterday I asked if he keeps in touch with other girls in the net. He said no. Should I believe him? Why did a girls name come up in my search?

his lame excuse was that it was in his email and he just clicked it because he was being "nosey". BS! He doesn’t come near me - if he does, I ALWAYS have to initiate it. I have been suspicious for a while now because he shows no interest in me. I am not fully convienced that he is actually cheating on me physically bec I can account for almost every minute of his day (we work in a small office together). However, looking for alternatives online is cheating in my eyes.

It’s not as simple as leaving him. I brought three kids into this marriage and he has helped me in raising him. I know that I cannot financially support them on my own. He had no kids when we got married, so I am having his in just a few months. What am I supposed to do? Intelligent answers only please. I am stressed enough and don’t need any sarcasm, please!
To eagle "whatever" - obviously a male, shows how smart you are — I wasn’t. He wasn’t smart enough to close out the tab. When I got online, there it was in my face. But thanks for the "intelligent" response.

For the last 8 yrs my husband has been involved with one or more of these areas. I’ve made it very clear how I feel. I think it’s cheating, he calls it "entertainment".

To me: watching porn, roll playing & acting out fantasies is entertainment.

Five years ago we entered the swinging lifestyle for about a year. It started out fun & ended in disaster. He became emotionally involved with someone. I was crushed. Their emotional tie just about killed me. We met them five years ago and their relationship ended last month. As far is he says, they weren’t physically involved outside of our two trists.

Today he left his email open and yes, I found several different hook-up sites. I read emails. I feel deceived. He says he’s a freak and that it’s just entertainment. I say he’s cheating. He hides it, he sneaks and he lies about it. If it’s not cheating, then why lie?

Is it worth ending a marriage, 4 kids later? Can we find common ground? If it had ever stopped I may have trusted him.