We all just moved from one apartment to the other and my email was to a best friend in my home state, talking about what terrible packers and movers my roommates are. I refered to them as "lazy" and called them out for leaving mess (stuffed into trash bags the morning of the move) day after day and going out to get wasted, trash the house and start all over again.
Obviously, they are now mad. I apologized that they read that and it hurt their feelings, but I defend my right to use my personal email to vent my frustrations to a friend of 13 years who I talk about everything with. I absolutely would not believe for a moment that they haven’t been out with their respective friends, venting their own frustrations.
The finder of the email insists that it "popped up," but it’s an old facebook message which eventually turns into a conversation about how my ankles have been bothering me. He would have had to click "earlier messages" to get to the information that made him so mad.
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In this day and age of technology if you don’t want some one reading something, DON’T WRITE IT!
having said that, no, you should not have to apologies for it. Never apologies for what you truly think. If your room mates don’t like what you have to say, that is their problem, not yours. If it IS what you truly think, don’t be ashamed of it either, hold onto your own thoughts and morals, they are all that makes you, you.
No.
If all these was written in an EMAIL, then its an invasion of privacy for your roommate to even be reading it. If it was as a facebook conversation, then you were just asking for trouble since everyone can see it.
hell naw, tell him stop snooping around
no it’s your email wtf is she doing looking at your personal things? she should apologize
no it is them who should apologize for going through your personal stuff
no, whatever the situation others have to right to go thru your own personal email. that is wrong.
No you don’t have to apologize. In fact, your nosy roommate owes you an apology. You already apologized that they read it and that it hurt their feelings, but your feelings are your own and you have no reason to justify them. If your roommate can’t apologize for snooping, then perhaps you are living with the wrong person. If indeed it did just ‘pop up’ as he claimed, he should have closed the conversation immediately and not read its history.
His fault, not yours. And the fact that other roommates are upset about this, also his fault. Not yours. You’ve apologized that your remarks hurt their feelings but you’re owed an apology for privacy invasion.
If they went through your personal email then, I would not apologize to them.
I would tell them, "Well, you shouldn’t be mad at me for going through my personal email.
Curiosity killed the cat."
You have EVERY right to vent to someone on your own email account about problems you are having its suppose to be private and just for your eyes. Also, you should not have to apologize to them about this because first off its NONE of there business and they should not have been looking on your mail.
sounds like this is a situation where you could have just joked around with them about their messes and lack of packing skills instead of talking about it behind their backs. its probably not what you said but how you said it *i.e. behind their backs/ in a demeaning manner* even if they were snooping you probably should apologize because you may have hurt their feelings since they found out you talk about them behind their backs
If he didn’t want to know, he shouldn’t have looked. That’s totally invading privacy, and hell that’s how chicks get over stuff like that. If you weren’t venting to your friend, you’d be storing that sh*t up inside and then blow up on them, right? I say there is no apology needed and you should tell him not to snoop!
no
what is the b!tch doing in your stuff?
total invasion of privacy
1) It’s your fault for leaving your computer turned on and logged into Facebook.
2) Nothing on Facebook is as Private as you think it is.
3) Even if the account was logged into and you had been reading that exact message, he’s still in the wrong for reading it on your computer (even were it a communal computer, and even more so if it is NOT a communal computer).
4) He FURTHER went into Santa’s bad books (and where *I* live anyway, technically broke the law) in telling your *other* roomies the content of the message(s) in question.
Now…does he have a right to feel slighted and insulted about the contents of the message?
Hell, yes.
What *should* he have done?
Apologise to *you* for invading your privicy, and inform you that while he understands needing to vent occasionally, slagging the room mates the way you *did* is wrong.
YOU are in the wrong for how you did it (and leaving your Facebook logged in).
HE is in the wrong for reading it and spreading the contents.
You should both apologise and let bygones be bygones…just in your case, 1) change your computer password(s) (and scan the computer for keyloggers), and 2) log-off of everything when you leave (or lock the computer so no one else can use it if you’ll be using it again right away). Or, better yet…*turn it OFF* when you’re not using it!
Good Luck!