I had to get into my husband’s email account to print something off. When I was in it I found out he has an adult friend finder account which is for s e x with others. Well I logged in to his AFF account and didn’t see any recent activity or any messages to or from. However, I found out he opened his account 2 weeks after WE GOT MARRIED !
We have a great sex life so that can’t be the problem rest assured. His profile has limited info and he says that he "is just checking the site out and hasn’t made any decisions yet".
What decisions is he talking about ?!
Well I created my own account and I have emailed him. It may seem wrong but I have to know if he would cheat on me because we are married now. If things go down, I will try to set up a date with him and to his surprise he will be meeting me and possibly my wedding ring in his face.
Why would he have this account? He always tells me how I am such a great wife. I haven’t said anything cause I plan on catching him with ME !
I’m adding this because to clear up some peoples assumptions….. My husband is freakin hot !!!! We are a cute ass couple….!
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Excellent plan. Exchange quite a few emails before meeting him in person. That way you’ll get a great idea of what’s going on in his head.
Some men are addicted to women. It’s as compulsive as an alcohol or gambling addiction. It is not because of any fault or shortcoming on your part. It is his weakness. It’s better that you find out now what exactly is going on and get rid of a man who should never have taken wedding vows.
LMAO he’s hunting for strange poontang
All I can tell you is this- that site is filled with ugly people looking to hook up because no one that is half way decent looking would waste thier time on a disgusting website like that.
I think you are doing the right thing, you go girl :]
youare going a good thing
thats wrong
Well if he succeeds in finding anything other than bots, other guys, or people just looking to collect pictures and email addresses so they can spam you forever, he’ll have better luck than I did.
If you like Pina Coladas and getting caught in the rain…
He will be surprised for sure, and if he goes through with meeting a "stranger" , rest assured his intentions were no good. You did the right thing, now carry on as though nothing was happening, until that meeting. You`ll keep us informed, won`t you?
He has opened up a cursory account. can’t do much unless you shell out $$$, which allows you to contact other people.
However….seeing as how you’ve also used deception and contacted him I can’t wait to hear the results.
Heh, heh…another marriage bites the dust. And the ink isn’t even dry on the marriage certificate yet.
Maybe he IS just checking it out. Go ahead with your plan to meet and give him one more opening to fess up before you do….
Ha! What you’re doing is probably wrong on all sorts of levels, but if I’m honest, it’s probably exactly what I would do myself (or be pissed I hadn’t thought of it!).
It isn’t funny, though — it would bother me to see that right after getting married. It’s not surprising you want to know.
You have got to update on this one.
What you did was AWSOME , you done a great job !
It’s all icky old people looking to get laid. It’s amazingly gross. And the women look like old whores. I was on a date once and we wound up at a bar and they had reserved tables and they all kept hitting on us. We had to leave after we told them we weren’t part of the "group." It was gross.
These are questions you are going to have to ask him. But I can tell you that this doesn’t look good. I think your idea about emailing him and meeting him for a date is a good one. You definitely deserve better if he really is using that website!
Also he’s an idiot for letting you check his mail when there was mail in his account about that website. But then again, people who cheat aren’t usually the brightest crayons in the box… Sorry this is happening to you! I hope it turns out okay in the end!!
some men think it is okay to look, even though they are on a one woman diet, they like to look at the menu to see what is out there. no harm in looking.
That site is used to find fk buddies (gay/bi/ straight) i have look and i wouldn’t touch the women on there with a ten foot pole let alone my 7.5 penis he must really be hard up,ugly, low standards,gay or all of the above if you post a picture of you and him or yourself i would be able to assit in determing which.
You go girl and good luck. But remember it may be curiosity, I myself have wondered on them just to see what kind of people are there, with absolutely no intention of doing anything. Good luck and let us know what happens.
All I have to say is be careful of STD’s from him. If hes doing stuff like this then theres no telling if hes already cheated. I’ve heard about this website and lets just say, its not just about meeting friends!!! I just feel bad for you because its shows that he just does not value marriage at all. Go with your gut feeling with what you should do.
Great idea!! This something I would do if I discovered that my husband was doing the same thing. I hope he doesn’t respond. But don’t think that just because you guys have a great sex life means he won’t cheat. Some men are never satisfied.
Computer love between ya two on AFF is nothin wrong it shoudl spice up ya sex life a bit more…As long as he seekign you & only you or maybe some extra person/persons then that’s between ya & ya open relationship if it’s that strong like that without no guilt behind it from either one of you.We only live once so venture together on AFF ~1~!!!
Look, I so understand where you are coming from and why you would set him up like this. Can’t say I would react any differently if it where me. However saying that, you might be leading your marriage to the chopping block by doing this. Let me explain. Most men will look, but not do anything wrong. If you write him this email and he responds to it out of curiosity, then you will be hurt and angry, and he will be embarrassed and or angry. Don’t set him up for failure. He might have set this account up just because, an action on his part which is wrong and stupid. Instead, I would go to him and in a calm way share with him how you found out about this and how it made you feel. Ask him why would he do this. Anyway, good luck..
Ha Valerie! Love your answer as usual.
Yeah in my experience AFF is full of abandon accounts. Lots of people have set them up and then never checked them again after 2 weeks OR they are ugly.
I’m sorry for whatever he is up to! Hopefully he was just curious about what the site was and joined to look around, but if not I hope you catch him up in his little plan! Man, is he gonna be SHOCKED!
Awesome… keep us updated. I would LOVE to hear what happens.
He will probably tell you he did it out of curiosity or any other excuse he can come up with. Thank God there was no recent activity so maybe he came to his senses about his relationship with you! Setting him up like this will definately tell you something about his true character. If he doesn’t respond to you that would be a good thing but…. you still need to confront him on what you found and you deserve an honest answer since he screwed up the trust here. I would be mad as hell here and quite disappointed in him no matter what reason he had for it. Good luck sweetie I know your very hurt.
maybe you should have your gaydar checked and re-adjusted… not the first time… especially on adult friend finder… nasty, nasty…not that unusual… better sit down and have a serious heart to heart …. i’ve seen it before and it’s not that uncommon for someone to lead a dual lifestyle….and bi-sexuality is running rampant now days
When I found my husband on this site I got his password and logged on as him to see his messages that had been sent to him or sent from him……didn’t like what I saw….at least your husband hasn’t sent or received any which says he probably just logged on out of curiosity. I wish I had had enough sense about me to send him emails and see how far he would take it instead I confronted him and he deleted the account…..not to say he couldn’t have set up a new account the next day. I say you follow this through and see where it goes b/c even if he is just looking right now what if some other woman were the one to start emailing him what would he do??
Rather than go that way, why not sit down and discuss this. There’s something about the way you’re going about it that’s bothering me…..I just haven’t put my finger on it yet. It feels dishonest. In your discussion, I’d be very clear in setting boundaries: cheating isn’t acceptable, the accounts get closed and why is he feeling the need to be a part of this. Just be honest and upfront about it. You might not like the outcome but at least you can look yourself in the face and feel good about who you are. I really hope you’re able to get this resolved.
Good luck, I hope for your sake, that he does’nt take the bait. I don’t know if it makes you feel any better, but I have some male friends who opened accounts on there just so they could look at the naked pics…discusting I know, but better than trying to hook up with one of them..eeeww!